Even those couple who start off with heavy and hot sex lives at some point go through slumps. You need to find a way to always rekindling your sex drive for the betterment of your relationship. The following are some of the rules which will help you as a couple stay sexually satisfied in your long-term relationship.
Schedule kid-free date nights
A lot of energy usually goes into your kids that you get too exhausted to nurture one another. You can go for a date without the lids to show them you are not together because of them but because you enjoy each other genuinely. Once a year you can splurge on a hotel to have hotel sex. Having sex in an unfamiliar and new place activates dopamine which is responsible for the rush of pleasure.
You should never compare your sex lives to that of others. This is a no-no but a common pitfall which most couples fall into. When you start comparing yourself to other people, you often will find a way to either make yourselves seem better or less than them. Long-term sexual connections are not about who is best or having it most often. Your sexual contact with your spouse over time changes, grows and if you are open, it takes you to places you never thought you could go. You will have moments of pleasurable connectedness, extreme highs and also moments of feeling bored, feeling bored and disconnected. This is normal in long-term sexual relationships
Focus on the Turn-ons and not Turn-offs
To spice up your sex life, you need to find your partner sexually appealing or attractive. Most people tend to focus on the turn-off and pay little attention to the turn-ons. Try to recall what attracted you to your partner the first time and create interactions which are conducive to replicate those feelings. This will help your sexual life grow.
Have Sex at least Once every Week
Research shows couples who have sex once every week, have a higher level of relational satisfaction than those who have it less than once a week. It is not how often you do it but how well you engage with each other. Various types of sex bring different benefits. Lovemaking reinforces the sense of emotional connection. There is also sex which will expand your sense of fantasy and creativity, sex that appeals to your senses directly and that which occurs to get rid of stress like a quickie. Try therefore to be varied in approach and consistent in frequency and to keep your expectations high.
Practice the Platinum Rule
The golden rule is to do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. However, the platinum rule is where it’s at. Always do to your partner what they would want to be done to them. You need to know your partners biggest turn-ons. Endeavor to commit to doing it at least once every week.
These rules will help you hold tight as a couple and always enjoy sex with one another and bond better each day.